You may have been out of the dating space for a while and still looking and suddenly an ex from way back shows up letting you know how much you have been missed. He/she comes up with some sweet words to make you go “gaga” and fall right into their arms. You already have your emotions running high after reading the text messages or staying on the phone with him/her for hours after you both reunite. This person has finally convinced you by keeping up the pace and trying to prove he/she has changed but have they really?
The first thing that should come to mind is how your relationship ended not necessarily the comeback. It is easy to show someone you care, when you are staging a comeback but how much is truly the caring spirit at this earlier stage? You can never really know until you give the relationship time but you also do not want to dive into it with someone who bit you the first time. You do not want to give room for a second jab. If it happened that the relationship was abusive, you should never entertain such relationships going forward. The relationship ended on a sour note, you should not even open yourself up to a long-winded conversation but rather choose to remain friends with them for future purposes. You do not know where you will need each other. I personally do not by the idea of an ex coming back after a while to say that he/she has missed you or you are the best thing that ever happened to them.
Initially, your worth was not valued so what makes the difference between them and now? You may say people grow up and change but what about the memories? Can they become awoken and the flashbacks kick in and allow repetition? I suggest leaving the friendship open, meet strictly in public places or with other friends around and do not arouse your emotions to the point of falling in love again only the get hurt once more. You must love yourself enough not to want to entertain anything that will hurt or harm you. You are better off being alone that to be with someone who does not value you or know your worth.
You may be dating a player or narcissist and trying to figure out how to move on and away from the relationship.
I hope this article will help you find ways to stop wasting your type with a player or narcissist:
I’ve always talked about soul ties – sleeping with someone and remaining connected to that person’s soul for life. You may have a rebound, think about that person or have flashbacks even after you’ve moved on.
This article also talks about remaining connected to someone you may have had sex with in the past. Hope it helps someone out there:
We as human beings have a very strong self-centered aspect (even if it may not be truly ‘real’) of our beings called the ego, and many problems arise when this aspect of the human experience goes uncontrolled. Manipulation has always been a favored tool of the ego in order to get what it wants.